Type 8s’ decisive and assertive leadership style causes them to be powerful change agents in the world, especially when seeking justice and protection for others.
However, they feel an intense need to protect themselves against betrayal and powerlessness by always having an invincible exterior and minimizing any personal vulnerability.
Their fear of weakness and vulnerability, joined with their thirst for control, power, and justice, apart from Christ, can lead them to be too blunt, confrontational, insensitive, domineering, cynical, and even vengeful. Underneath their outward strength is a tender heart with a deep fear of betrayal. While other Types fear people and become passive, Type 8s fear people and become aggressive. Their personality says, “I’ll control them before they can control me. Inevitably, this self-protection ends up doing more harm than good. To protect themselves, Type 8s live in denial, suppressing any emotions that cause them to feel vulnerable, out of control, or exposed, living as though they never existed.
In relationships with others, Type 8s can end up sacrificing intimacy so that their weaknesses can’t be discovered and used against them. Denying themselves closeness and tenderness with others, as well as the giving or receiving of forgiveness, leaves them feeling incomplete. They miss out on the intimacy and support for which they were created.
When Type 8s’ hearts surrender their fear of betrayal to Christ, they can relinquish their need for control and allow people to see an endearing vulnerability and compassionate strength. From that place, they can better protect the innocent from injustice, empower others, and use their leadership for the greater good.